Friday, September 23, 2016

The Brangelina Obsession

I am just sick right now about all this Brad, Angie, Marion and Jennifer crap. First it was "Angie files for divorce", followed by "Marion and Brad were cheating together," then "Jennifer says this is karma," and finally "Marion says it's not true!" Talk about drama!

Sure, like a lot of the world, I was quite interested when I found out Angelina and Brad were divorcing. My first reaction was "man, that sucks" and my second being "he probably cheated." I think my initial reaction was the best one. I thought about their kids, all the charities they helped together and how the world saw their intense on-scene chemistry way back when they filmed Mr. and Mrs. Smith.

I have a few points about this whole debacle I would like to share, and then I would like to move on and forget about it (like the rest of the Internet should do.)

1. It's a divorce and I am sorry for them. The rest of the world should be too. Who cares about the whole Brad and Jennifer drama that happened way back when. A family is splitting and that is never a good or OK thing in my opinion. Sometimes, based on the situation, it should and has to happen for the happiness of all involved. But, it should be a last resort. In an ideal world, a child should be raised by a loving mother AND father. But, I rather have a single loving mother raise her children than two parents stay together who hate each other. What does that teach the child? It teaches them the wrong ideas about what love can and should be. No one should revel in their divorce, no matter how they got together. Divorce is a sad thing and just because it's in the spotlight because of Angie and Brad's job, doesn't mean it should be treated any differently.

2. The whole "it's karma" thing is a bunch of awful crap. Yes, Brad and Angie made a bad choice to cheat when Brad and Jennifer were married. It was wrong, plain and simple. However, no one and women especially should revel in another woman's pain. I know a lot of women and men have gone through the pain of finding out that their spouse is a cheater. Unfortunately, I don't think it's a rare thing these days. But, reveling in someones pain, just because it's ironic, doesn't make it OK. We should still be sorry for the divorce as a whole (as stated above) or just not think about it at all. After all, it's not really any one's business, is it?

3. The media is making me sick right now. I know it's the whole "there's a demand we need to fill" thing, the "it's a novelty" deal and finally "they are public figures" analogy. I've been in journalism and I know why the papers/TV/web is talking about it. But the NY Post's cover was just insane. This Cover is just shameful. I mean really? They are taking a photo of Jennifer and using it in the wrong context. I hope she sues the post. Unless she is officially quoted them or gave them the a-OK to use this, I think it's wrong of them to use this. So much for your name NY Post. I don't consider that good journalism and shame on you.

OK. I am done with my Brad and Angie rant. Thanks for listening.

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Disney is full of strong female examples, contrary to recently published "research"

I came across an article on Facebook earlier this week, pointing out the problems that Disney cartoons have caused, specifically those made between the 80s and 90s. 
The article suggests that The Little Mermaid and the princess stories that followed in the next few years, limited women in terms of speech and offered few examples of strong powerful women.

Now, I'll be the first to admit that Disney has affected my generation WAY TOO MUCH. We had a slur of films with catchy songs and fascinating stories (in my opinion at least). Plus the 90s was a prominent time for home video. It was simple for almost any parent, no matter their financial standing, to find it an easy solution to pop their kids in front of the TV to keep them busy. I was effected by The Little Mermaid other such films in good and bad ways.


Bad things I learned

Your happy ever after means you have a prince charming-  You don't have to have a "prince charming" per say, because he doesn't exist. It is however important to have someone in your life who cares about you and you care for in return, whether that's your mom, boyfriend, best friend or wife.

Hunting is evil-  I learned this not only from Bambi, but a slur of other animal based films (whether Disney, or from somewhere else.) Hunting isn't evil, but I just can't shake this one all the way. Logically, I know the meat I eat comes from someone killing an animal. That doesn't mean I can handle being around people hunting. I like to see meat in a grocery store as "pork" and not as Babe the pig.

Life is a fantasy world, full of happiness:  There is a lot of happiness, but there also is a lot of sadness. Disney movies very rarely convey true life problems, especially the cartoons. But, then again, that's the basis of the appeal.


Good things I learned

Life is always better with a smile on your face and a song in your heart-  Snow White taught me that, and yes, it may sound lame, but it's true. When you let the bad things get you down, you will feel down ALL THE TIME. (or at least a lot of times) When you put a smile on and push through, or sing a song when you are feeling down, it just seems to make the world a little less hopeless.

You have to stand up and fight for what you believe is right-  Mulan, Pocahontas, Brave, Aladdin, Beauty and the Beast and probably every Disney movie reinstated this in me. You can't just sit back and watch others destroy themselves or let others destroy your life. You've got to do what you can to help others and help yourself.

You can be a success if you work hard- Tiana of course reinstated that one. She dreams for a long time to get her own restaurant, but in the end, she has to earn money by working day and night. She saves it all up to get her dream.



One of the women quoted in the article says about Beauty and the Beast:

"There's one isolated princess trying to get someone to marry her, but there are no women doing any other things,” Fought says. “There are no women leading the townspeople to go against the Beast, no women bonding in the tavern together singing drinking songs, women giving each other directions, or women inventing things. Everybody who’s doing anything else, other than finding a husband in the movie, pretty much, is a male.”

What's her deal? Belle had a lot of amazing qualities and was a great role model to girls I think. 1) She went into a terrifying castle to go save her father. She was brave. 2) She was selfless when she volunteered to take his place in an isolated prison where a scary beast presided. 3) She was educated. She read constantly to learn, entertain herself and become a more well-rounded person. The townspeople thought she was odd. It's because she wasn't fawning over Gaston like all the silly other girls in town. 4.) When the townspeople went to kill the beast, she had learned that not all things are like they appear. She knew he was kind. She did everything she could to save him. If she had not returned, Gaston would have killed the Beast.

Needless to say, these stories are fantasies, but I think I'm OK with trying to live up to some of the ideals and examples that those princesses left for me.



Tuesday, November 17, 2015

Grey colored glasses are going out of style

I saw a meme on Facebook a few days ago that made me laugh. (Even though I hate memes with a passion) This year is going to be the year everyone was offended by everything. It's so true! Apparently, no one believes in the color grey anymore. 
I was taught growing up, through church, that there are not any grey areas. Everything is black or white. I think adults said this, misinterpreting what it actually meant. I do believe everything is black or white in terms of God's law, which has been set forth since before the beginning of earth. You either choose to follow the 10 Commandments, or you don't. 
However, when it comes to social and political issues, there are grey areas. Unfortunately, no one seems to believe that any more. You either support gays or you don't. You're either Christian or your not. You are conservative or liberal. You are racist, or you're not. You're going to allow in refugees or you're a hateful bigot. 
I wish some people would stop thinking that Republicans are hateful, rich, hypocritical bigots and that Democrats are liberal hippies who have no sense of reality.  

Gay Marriage : I'm for it. 
Personally: I don't believe homosexuality is natural by God's standard. I do believe true marriage is ONLY between a man and a woman. 
Politically: I do believe all men/women have the right to love whoever they want, and be married if they so choose. After all, this is a free country, and isn't it the Bible that talked about free will? No politician, or Christian, has the right to tell someone they can't marry the love of their life. 

Abortion: I'm against it. 
Personally and Politically: I am a mother by choice. I made the decision to procreate. Most women did too, otherwise they could have practiced abstinence. When you have sex, you take the risk. (Protected or not, as protection is not 100% effective.) If you were raped, you can still put the child up for adoption. That child could be a great scientist, someone who creates beautiful art. Either way, the fetus is the formation of a living child. To toss it out, is to devalue life. Using politics to rid yourself of what you consider your shame, embarrassment and a mistake is pathetic. What if your parents had aborted you? 

Refugees: I am against the idea of rushing them in here to meet some goal President Obama's administration has set. 
Personally: There are children out there. There have been a lot of amazing people come to America who were refugees, who changed the U.S. forever in a positive way. This included actors to scientists. I believe in helping all people from ALL races, faiths and walks of life. They NEED our help. I would love to see those children  sleeping in a safe, warm bed; instead of in the streets. What if that was my son? What if that was my husband? What if it was me? I want to feed the hungry, clothe the naked and support the poor, like most actual Christians. We believe in helping those in need, as quickly as possible. The U.S. has already helped 2,200 refugees. That's pretty amazing. Good for us, but yes, there are MANY more to help. Our work is not done.   
Politically: It doesn't make sense. The vetting process takes MORE THAN A YEAR at best. Even then, there are refugees who don't have enough background information available for the United Nations to vet them properly. I mean, heck, one of the terrorists who attacked Paris made it through a refugee processing center. If President Obama talks congress into letting in refugees too quickly, we as Americans, could be responsible for another 9-11. Yes, I am scared. Anyone who isn't, is fooling themselves. To rush this process could, and most likely would, be extremely dangerous. To allow 10,000 refugees in by the end of the year (President Obama's goal) would require the vetting process to be sped up. Then, by 2017 he wants to be letting in 100,000 a year. Now that is not only a dangerous risk, it's also unrealistic.


Thursday, November 12, 2015

When it comes to equality, complication is to be expected.

I'm ALL about equality. That said, this whole thing on the Mizzou campus is insane. That I think we can all agree on.
For the protesters side:
1. I have no idea what it's like to be in the African American minority. To say they are making it up or dramatizing in would be very presumptuous. Especially when the only thing I know about it, I've read on the news.
2. Many say these so called "incidents" probably never happened. I was a journalist once and still am at heart. I know how this works. Documentation may have existed once and disappeared, or it may never have existed at all on purpose, if Mizzou truly is a racist campus.
For the "this is based on lies" side:
1. Obviously the protesters haven't handled this the right way and many may have rushed to social media without being 100% sure on what they were posting.
2. It's not right that the president and maybe others will or have lost their jobs. They worked hard to get there. I don't believe one person's decisions can stamp out inequality (especially on a college campus.)
3. I am sure the campus has tried many things to battle racism and equality issues from diversity training, to more scholarships and job opportunities for African Americans, proud support of Michael Sam and allowing groups like the protesters to form on the MU campus.
4. The university cannot prevent all incidents. To believe it (or one person) can, is just insane. There are so many things that happen on a campus daily. There is no way the campus police or administration can find, report and battle them all.
*For those writing idiotic commentaries online:
Who cares if Johnathon Butler's dad is rich? That's the only detail I've seen. I haven't seen proof that this Eric Butler is his father. I haven't seen proof that he lived with his father and benefited from this man's money. I haven't seen anything demonstrating that he had every advantage.
Maybe his father didn't pay for his education. Maybe his dad doesn't pay for his healthcare. My parents have helped me a lot in the financial department. That said, they aren't rich, and they don't pay for all my expenses. They helped when I was in college, but I was a lucky one. I know many people whose parents say, "sorry kid you are on your own," or "I'm still going to raise my child without spending too much on them. They need to learn to work for everything themselves." (A good lesson to teach in my opinion.)
Even if he did have all these privileges, it doesn't mean he hasn't had to endure racism. That's the stupidest thing I have ever heard.

I could write a million things about this, but I think I'm done.

Sunday, July 12, 2015

The great divorce debate

I've recently read several articles stating the divorce rate is actually way lower than 50 percent, which was previously believed by researchers.
The worst by far, was one about how Christians get divorced less than those who aren't Christians. 
The divorce rate could be lower than 50 percent in general. I have no clue to be honest, other than what is reported in various news outlets. However, the last three bullet points in this "research article" which really bother me, are:
-Most marriages are happy.
-Simple changes make a big difference in most marriage problems.
-Most remarriages succeed.
The first bullet point is the most unrealistic. What measures a happy marriage? 1. Just because people don't get divorced, doesn't mean a marriage is "happy." 2. A lot of people convince themselves they are happy, even though they really aren't. They don't want to give up the dream. I doubt many have even admitted to themselves their marriage is unhappy, let alone claimed it's unhappy on a survey. 3. I don't believe you can even classify a marriage as "happy" or "unhappy." All marriages have good and bad days. Unless, you are in an abusive relationship, your spouse is cheating on you or something along those lines. Then you should get out ASAP.
To the second bullet point, at least the "reporter" said most marriage problems require a simple change. There are lots that don't. If you have a cheating spouse, that's not a simple fix. If you have an abusive spouse (verbally or physically), that's not an easy fix. If you fight about money 75 percent of the time, that is NOT an easy fix. It is not easy to change one's nature, even though it may sound easier than it is. Both my husband and I have flaws. To me, my flaws are not easy to fix. To him, his flaws are not easy to fix. Easy from an outside view, maybe? To those in the marriage, each problem is complicated and not easy. Working together and excepting each others flaws though, can make it easier.
Most remarriages succeed? First of all, when a person gets married the second time, or when two people remarry each other again? Either could be true, but I don't believe there is any accurate way to fully track the data.
It just goes to show many people read the headline and don't really think through the content and pick it apart before posting. Goodbye critical thinking. I guess you are a thing of the past to many people.

Friday, July 3, 2015

My view, from the big 27

There's a point in everyone's life when they realize birthdays have become a little less exciting. Your 25 presents you used to get turn to single digits, you realize you are seriously getting older and it becomes a regular day where, if you a responsible adult, you still have to go to work.
It may sound sad, but one of the things I have grown accustomed to is seeing who tells me happy birthday on Facebook. I get a little smile usually, thinking of how I met the person who goes out of their way to say it. It also reminds me of all the old friends I have from various stages of life.
I think the most amazing thing is to see the diversity of people I have come in contact with over the last 27 years. This year (and the day is not yet over) I have had birthday wishes from so many people, I lost count. People wishing me the best ranged from my childhood piano teacher to newspaper reporters. I even had a happy birthday from an elementary school principal, a college theater professor and my previous land lord.
It's amazing to see the friends I have accumulated so far. It's an amazing world of technology that keeps us all connected, even if in the smallest of ways.
Thanks for the birthday wishes and here's to over 27 more!

Sunday, June 28, 2015

The Best and Worst of Facebook: Gay Marriage

I held back on my Facebook posts the past couple days. Why? I was just so consumed with reading the thoughts of others.
I strongly believe real marriage is ordained of God and is between a man and a woman. I also feel very seriously about the separation of church and state. I believe people have this thing called free agency, which gives all people the right to choose to live the way they believe is right.
That said, if the government wants to recognize gay marriage, it's within the government's right to do so. America also has freedom of religion, so I also have the right to my own beliefs.
All in all, I am truly happy for those who are happier because of the Supreme Court's decision.
Here's what I took away from Facebook this week, the best and the worst posts.
Best: 
1. Posts about showing respect and compassion to all, regardless of their beliefs or opinions on gay marriage. Christ taught to love, so we must continue to show love to one another. (I had several people post things along those lines, but I can't seem to find them all now.)
2. "What a wonderful day. I know this ruling doesn't make everything perfect, and that there are still a great many good people in this country who disagree with the fact that I can now marry who my heart chooses and my head decides, but I'm trying to set that aside for the moment and let all the joy at how this ruling legitimizes my life and the lives of gay people all over this country dance through my veins. It's nice to feel legit." (a friend of a friend posted this and I think everyone should feel legit.)
3. I am about 100 percent sure Obama isn't going to revoke religious freedom. It would cause a civil war. However, it's still an interesting question about how churches will be treated in choosing whether to marry a gay couple or not. 
4. Comments about how the news today is often sad, but how the story of the Supreme Court ruling gives many hope.
5. The photo of an actual rainbow over Springfield the day after the Supreme Court's decision. No matter what you believe, coincidence or sign, it's still kind of cool.
Worst:
1. Conservative side: Keep your comments to yourself if you disagree with me. Liberal side: If you don't agree with the Supreme Court you can unfriend me. This just shows ignorance and intolerance of the beliefs and thoughts of others. It makes it pretty clear people posting these things don't want anything to do with anyone different than themselves. That's pretty sad.
2. The pastor who promised to set himself on fire if gay marriage passed. Because we all know he followed through with that...
3. People who are posting anything comparing gay marriage to love between humans and animals, cars and humans or other inanimate objects. It's worse than people acting like animals are people. Now you're comparing people to animals. That is inhumane and uncaring.
5. All the rainbow photos. Enough is enough. Turning your photo, or worse, making the White House look like a rainbow is ridiculous. Doing this for one day, maybe, but doing it for multiple is over the top.