Thursday, April 30, 2015

Scientists are all the beholders and we are all pawns

So Business Insider thinks scientific research shows what makes a woman more attractive and what makes a man more attractive.

My first thought was, why is business insider wasting its time on this junk? My second thought was, how does Business Insider, or any other entity or person for that matter, think they can nail down what make a person attractive or not?

Some of the points on both sides could or might not be true, but hasn't Business Insider heard that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder?" I know my husband and I joke around about attractive or unattractive actors. He will often say "That's so werid. That guy is not at all attractive."

Sure, physical attraction is important. It's what makes someone want to take a chance on a date to begin with and it's a big part of what keeps a relationship alive. That said, it's not the only thing.
All the people that I have all found seriously attractive have a few things in common. It wasn't all based on physical appearance.

1. Each guy made me feel important. The individual was interested in everything I had to say, or at least pretended they did. :)

2. All had a stroke of kindness in one way, shape or form. It might have been that I saw them open the door for someone on more than one occasion, they showed compassion for their fellow man or woman by expressing interest in a social issue or they went out of their way to serve others.

3. Each one made me feel like I wanted to be a better person. It could be they made me want to be more educated, more physically fit or just all in all, a more compassionate person.

All those factors made their smiles cuter, made their eyes more attractive or made me want to spend time with them more.

Maybe it's just me, but I think personality makes a huge difference on the outward appearance of a person.

Of course, I could be wrong and it could have more to do with facial hair, less makeup and a 7;10 waist ratio.